Domestic Violence-Spouse Disrespect from the Get Go
My marriage was a scam from the beginning.
He set up the bank accounts after we were married. Being that he lived ____,he already had his personal account. So it seemed logical to open "Household account". And, because I really trusted him-I let him take care of the so called bills. About 5 years later-all of those bank statements from the bank. After, opening 3 years of unopened statements-it was clear as day. He had a little "switch-a-roo-" scam at the bank-because his name was on our family account-the teller allowed him-dishonorable system. This was in the 1997 years when each activity concerning statement was documented. It was easy to see -he had the teller take from the account ______ and place into his personal account. Over the years, that had totalled up to about $65,000.00.
By the time I arrived home, the mail would be put away-however, dinner would be waiting. So, I settled into a routine of working and allowing him to handle the financial aspect of the marriage-big mistake. ( I learned a lesson) Four Years later, on medical leave, decided to open all those statements hidden away in the bedroom. I was stunned-that someone could be so manipulative while portraying the act of "the great husband".
I was completely unaware of his bank "switch-a-roo" or "take yours and give to me" scam at the bank. The sad fact - I really trusted him and loved him. I had taken a vow to love and respect and I was dedicated to making our marriage work.
Money is important- but to think you have to lose integrity and honor - to justify that sense of entitlement-is beyond my thinking. A value system that is lacking morality is why we don't belong together.
It is nothing short of greed and lust for money.
I should have listened to my mother.
Water over the Bridge-or yesterday's mail- It is time for healing and moving forward, and letting this go.
Dr. Baxter
He set up the bank accounts after we were married. Being that he lived ____,he already had his personal account. So it seemed logical to open "Household account". And, because I really trusted him-I let him take care of the so called bills. About 5 years later-all of those bank statements from the bank. After, opening 3 years of unopened statements-it was clear as day. He had a little "switch-a-roo-" scam at the bank-because his name was on our family account-the teller allowed him-dishonorable system. This was in the 1997 years when each activity concerning statement was documented. It was easy to see -he had the teller take from the account ______ and place into his personal account. Over the years, that had totalled up to about $65,000.00.
By the time I arrived home, the mail would be put away-however, dinner would be waiting. So, I settled into a routine of working and allowing him to handle the financial aspect of the marriage-big mistake. ( I learned a lesson) Four Years later, on medical leave, decided to open all those statements hidden away in the bedroom. I was stunned-that someone could be so manipulative while portraying the act of "the great husband".
I was completely unaware of his bank "switch-a-roo" or "take yours and give to me" scam at the bank. The sad fact - I really trusted him and loved him. I had taken a vow to love and respect and I was dedicated to making our marriage work.
Money is important- but to think you have to lose integrity and honor - to justify that sense of entitlement-is beyond my thinking. A value system that is lacking morality is why we don't belong together.
It is nothing short of greed and lust for money.
I should have listened to my mother.
Water over the Bridge-or yesterday's mail- It is time for healing and moving forward, and letting this go.
Dr. Baxter
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I know you have suffered greatly because of his deceipt and dishonesty. I pray for your healing, peace of mind, and moving forward- putting this nightmare behind.
Blessings,
Beth